Category Archives: musings

My writing life, and life’s only zero-sum resource

My favorite line from Lauren Groff’s Fates and Furies, which I read this weekend.  I think you could say that a central task of adulthood for me has been stripping away whatever is unnecessary so that I can be sure to be present for the small and the daily, which is where I find life. […]


with my mother, my grandmother, and my great-grandmother, 1974 with my mother and my daughter 2002 I recently read – devoured, more like – Anne-Marie Slaughter’s book, Unfinished Business.  There are a great many points swirling around in my head but one of the foremost ones is in the acknowledgements. Slaughter mentions her first meeting […]

Cross-country metaphors

  A flashback photo for this post: me in 6th grade after a road race.  I see so much of Grace in this photo! I’ve written before about the metaphor that cross-country is and has been to me for parenting.  As Grace’s second season comes to a close, I’m thinking about another analogy that the […]

Start with what you know

I love Jeanette LeBlanc‘s writing.  All of it.  I particularly adored a piece of hers that I read recently, Start With What You Know.  She evokes so powerfully the writing life, the tension and urge and essence of the white hot need to come to the page.  I was inspired to share my own list […]


I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s contentment that I’m after.  Not happiness, simply, but contentment.  It’s taken me a long time to get to this, but the truth is that “happiness” has never felt like my goal.  Furthermore, it seems impossible to attain.  I could never wish for a permanent smoothing out of my […]


It feels like yesterday I wrote about the song Landslide, but it was years ago.  Over six years, in fact. Wow.  This life takes my breath away.  It really does. Just a couple of weeks ago, the Fleetwood Mac song that I so fiercely love – it has a claim to be my favorite song, […]

My patron saints

I adore this post by Gretchen Rubin in which she names her patron saints. I’ve been thinking a lot about who my patron saints are.  I find this exercise quite difficult!  A few who come to mind quickly: Annie Dillard – observant, grateful, wise Anne Lamott – funny, irreverent, prolific Georgia O’Keeffe – fierce, brave, celebrator […]

All at once

I’ve written before that parenthood has contained more surprises than I can count.  This is true.  There’s no question that the most startling thing for me is how loss is contained in being a mother.  I did not at all anticipate how bittersweet parenting would be.  Every single day makes me cry.  Every single day […]

The Uncrossable Swamp

When I was in sixth grade, a school unit on orienteering culminated in an afternoon field trip to a local nature preserve.  Both classes rode together on the battle-scarred yellow school bus.  When we arrived we were split into teams of two, each of which was given a laminated map and a compass.  Our map […]

A new year

Sunset on our last evening walk to the harbor, August 29, 2015.  This is the place where we celebrated our wedding, (15 years ago Wednesday!), and I love that we so regularly visit it during the summer with our children. I loved Jena Schwartz’s post about her Blue Moon Vows.  Truthfully, I have never been […]