Category Archives: everyday life


I was thinking recently of the ways that my life – our lives – look different than they did a year ago.  When I look at this list, the fact that I feel vaguely dizzy makes more sense to me. Last year, two children played hockey and I was at the rink in Cambridge approximately […]


sunset over the reception after my father’s funeral, 12/3/17, photo by Grace How shall the heart be reconciled/ to its feast of losses? I’ve written about these lines, from Stanley Kunitz’s beautiful poem The Layers, many times.  That fact makes me shake my head now … I never knew what loss meant, until these weeks, […]

Summer 2017

One of our last family tennis matches, late August, 2017.  I promise Whit was also having fun. This summer was jammed to bursting with beauty.  Possibly it shone particularly because we knew a big departure and ending threatened at summer’s end (Grace’s departure to boarding school), or maybe it just was golden, but for whatever […]

August break

As I have for many years, I plan to take August off from blogging.  There’s a lot happening in this final month of summer: campers coming home (Whit), children preparing to leave home (Grace) and for new schools (both).  We have shopping and packing and laundry to do, as well as our final family dinners […]


It may shock some of you to hear this, but I can be heavy lifting. I know. Someone as melancholy as me, as attuned to both loss and sorrow?  Hard to believe.  But it’s true. And it is getting more pronounced.  Well, to be accurate, my sensitivity is getting more pronounced all around, which means […]

Around Here

Everything lately has a particularly heightened sheen.  Maybe this is because of Grace’s impending departure.  Maybe this is because after a cold and rainy spring we are having spectacular weather that we’re grateful for.  Maybe this is because of an on-and-off back pain that’s made me hyper aware of what I can do when I […]

Tradition and adaptation, metaphor and flying

I have written a lot about traditions, and how they can form the scaffolding of family life. That’s certainly true for us.  For many years our family’s calendar has been dotted with traditions big and small.  As the kids have grown, some of these have fallen by the wayside and others have shifted but remained […]


The moment of change is the only poem. – Adrienne Rich Once again, a time of change. Oh, the change makes music. – James Taylor I am living in a poem, in a time of glorious music. Everything is changing. Grace and Whit are both going to new schools after 8 and 10 years respectively […]

The Alphabet of Right Now

Last night’s sunset Four separate times on this blog I’ve shared my Alphabet of Right Now (2009, 2011, 2013, 2015). The time felt right for the fifth installment! Part of the inspiration for this was the general every-other-year cadence I’ve been settling into with my alphabets, but it was also because of Amy Krouse Rosenthal, […]


The sky is full of glories these days. Hi everyone.  It’s Sunday morning, and I woke up to a glorious sunrise which turned the white shades on that side of the house pink. One of my regrets about our house is that I don’t have a good angle to photograph the sunrise.  My instagram feed […]