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a tree too huge to see at once

I can remember only one of its exhibits, which I loved: a large wall of little doors, arrayed from floor to ceiling, each with a tiny handle. Some I could reach for myself, while my father would have to lift me to others. I must have worn him out with my desire to open and […]

My child, in child’s pose

I looked over at Grace in child’s pose on the yoga mat next to me, noticing her closed eyes, her long eyelashes, the peace on her face.  My child, in child’s pose isn’t a child anymore.  A couple of weeks ago I took Grace to her first yoga class.  It felt like a big moment, […]

The Ramblers

I was thrilled to read an advance copy of my friend Aidan Donnelley Rowley’s The Ramblers, and I’m even more delighted to jump on the table in support of this book. It. Is. So. Wonderful. I read The Ramblers in one delicious gulp last fall and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about (or […]

the utterly vast spaces between us

In every important way we are such secrets from one another, and I do believe that there is a separate language in each of us, also a separate aesthetics and a separate jurisprudence. Every single one of us is a little civilization built on the ruins of any number of preceding civilizations, but with our […]

My problem with ease

I love my word of the year, ease.  I’ve been thinking about it a lot.  I make it my intention in yoga classes, I think about it before I go to bed at night.  And every time the word crosses my mind, I have an uncomfortable realization that I have a problem with the word.  […]

the dying are the ones who have the most to teach us about life

I had a feeling that Paul Kalanithi’s memoir, When Breath Becomes Air, would be a powerful read.  In fact I called it a “once in a decade” book, before I even read it.  I wasn’t wrong. I don’t think there’s a lot I can say to augment the rhapsodic reviews this book has rightly received, […]

Astonishing material and revelation

Astonishing material and revelation appear in our lives all the time. Let it be. Unto us, so much is given. We just have to be open for business. ~Anne Lamott,  Help, Thanks, Wow: The Three Essential Prayers I’ve read Help Thanks Wow, and loved it (I’ve read all of Anne Lamott’s non-fiction, and none of […]

Eleven years old

Dear Whit, Today you are eleven.  As I write this, a couple of weeks ago, I’m sitting at my desk listening to you sing along to 80s tunes.  Your favorite thing to do these days is to wear your new Beats headphones (thank you, Hadley) and listen to 80s metal (Living on a Prayer, Eye […]

Things I Love Lately

The Mother of All Loves – This beautiful piece by my friend Allison Slater Tate brought me to tears.  That’s not a surprise; I love Allison’s writing.  This is probably my favorite piece by her, ever.  Each word resonates.  I am grateful every day that Allison and I are walking along this parenting road approximately side […]

the work of soul-making

But isn’t transformation, the spirit’s education, most often effected by what is out of our hands, the sweeping forces – time, love, mortality – which shape us? The deepening of the heart, the work of soul-making goes on, I think, as the world hammers us, as we forge ourselves in response to its heats and […]