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the edge of some new light

Driving west tonight, the city dissolves behind us. I keep feeling we’re going farther than we’re going, a journey that started in the deep inkwell out of which our days are written. Nothing is said to indicate a monument, yet I perch on the edge of some new light. -Naomi Shihab Nye, Lights from Other […]

To my Daughter Leaving Home

Dear Grace, When you were little, before you could say “v,” you used to talk about having adwentures.  Nana wanted to get me a vanity plate for my car, actually, that said ADWENTURE. And now you’re off on your biggest adwenture yet. Back in the days when our adwentures took us to the Children’s Museum […]

the most authentic endings

The temptation towards resolution, towards wrapping up the package, seems to me a terrible trap.  Why not be more honest with the moment? The most authentic endings are the ones which are already revolving towards another beginning. -Sam Shepard

Seventeen years

September 9, 2000 Not the greatest photo of us, but I still love it because it’s pretty clear we’re having a good time Seventeen years ago September 9th, in a thunderstorm, Matt and I got married.  We didn’t know what lay ahead, and I think it’s safe to say the years between then and now […]

my new kind of prayer

The secret of life is not about knowing what to say or do.  It’s not about doing love or loss right. Life cannot be handled. The secret is simply to show up. It’s about witnessing it all, even the pain, and letting it touch you and make you not harder, but more tender. Showing up, […]

Summer 2017

One of our last family tennis matches, late August, 2017.  I promise Whit was also having fun. This summer was jammed to bursting with beauty.  Possibly it shone particularly because we knew a big departure and ending threatened at summer’s end (Grace’s departure to boarding school), or maybe it just was golden, but for whatever […]

August break

As I have for many years, I plan to take August off from blogging.  There’s a lot happening in this final month of summer: campers coming home (Whit), children preparing to leave home (Grace) and for new schools (both).  We have shopping and packing and laundry to do, as well as our final family dinners […]

wake up to the very life we’re living

Our intention is to affirm this life – not to bring order out of chaos, nor to suggest improvements in creation – but simply to wake up to the very life we’re living, which is so excellent once one gets one’s mind and desires out of its way and lets it act of it’s own […]


It may shock some of you to hear this, but I can be heavy lifting. I know. Someone as melancholy as me, as attuned to both loss and sorrow?  Hard to believe.  But it’s true. And it is getting more pronounced.  Well, to be accurate, my sensitivity is getting more pronounced all around, which means […]

acknowledging the good

Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance. -Eckhart Tolle Thank you to Kerry, on whose lovely blog Next Trip Around the Sun I found this perfect line.