Last weekend at the beach. Grace and two cousins swimming to the raft on an overcast day. I was preoccupied with the work call I had to do, but for a few moments, I was just there, too.
I met an old, dear friend for a walk early on Monday morning. As I headed out of my house to meet her, the air was cool. I walked down the steps and breathed in, enjoying the fresh air for a moment. Then, of course, thoughts flooded in: fall must be on the way. Snow comes next. This season I love best is almost over
It’s July 12.
What if I could just welcome the moment that is without allowing it to be occluded by fear of what comes next? What if my experience was just that, a moment-by-moment life, rather than a harbinger of what’s to come?
What if indeed.
Teach me how to live this way.
Experience, without all the associated emotions. That’s what I’m after, right? But I have no idea how to do that, how to unhook my day to day living of this life from my instantaneous emotional flinging, both forward (what’s coming) and back (what I’m reminded 0f). Of course the way that the past and the future are animate in the present serves to enrich my life, but it also takes away from it.
Still, a little less of that echo might sometimes be nice. I think of TS Eliot’s line, “teach us to care and not to care,” and think that’s what I’m really saying. I want to care – be present, be awake, be engaged, but not too care too much – to release my white-knuckle hold on what was and sometimes-paralyzing fears of what will be.
Yes. Teach me how to live this way.
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