Fifteen years

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How is it possible?  Fifteen years went by in a blink.

The years have been turbulent and placid, full of adventure and calm, one house, two children, visits to four continents, and over 50,000 digital photos.  We’ve had bad luck both hilarious and terrifying, cars totalled by falling trees that were struck by lightning (true) and children having anaphylactic reactions to nuts (also true).  We’ve also had extraordinary, miraculous luck, in the enormous form of a heart transplant but also in tiny ways every day.

We summitted Kilimanjaro together within six months of meeting, but as the minister said on our wedding day, Kilimanjaro is nothing compared to marriage.  And he was right.  It’s been a walk both more difficult and more breathtaking than I could possibly have imagined.  Our ascent of Kilimanjaro was marked by a golden late afternoon in the sun where you washed my hair for me and a long, slow slog to the top in a white-out blizzard.  Both of those experiences in a single week, along with more than I can count along the spectrum both meteorological and emotional.

Just like life.

I look at this picture and I’m struck by the palpable joy, by the deeply familiar place (we still go there most weekends of the summer, and each time I walk through this space I stop and remember the strains of Maybe I’m Amazed and this exact moment), and by how young we both are.  Young and optimistic and hopeful.  Fifteen years have sanded the rough edges off of us, there’s no question about that, as well as allowed some of our tendencies to harden into traits.  I hope there’s been more gentling than hardening.  Honestly, I think that’s a good a wish for a heading-towards-long marriage as I can think of.

I love you, Matt.  Happy fifteen years.  Here’s to well more than fifteen more.

Anniversary posts from past years are here: 2014, 2013, 2012, 2011

 


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11 Comments

  1. Posted September 9, 2015 at 5:16 am | Permalink

    Congratulations! I love that we got married in the same year. And I always forget then remember when you have an anniversary post and I realize– hey I’ve almost been married _____ years. We’re in December.

    15 feels major, doesn’t it!? Something about those certain numbers.

    You know I love when you write about Mr. A Design So Vast.

    admin Reply:

    Yes! 15 feels major. And I agree, I love that we were married the same year. I assure you, Matt LOVES being Mr. A Design So Vast. 🙂

  2. Posted September 9, 2015 at 5:31 am | Permalink

    I think everything you write is lovely. You have a way of writing that cuts right to the heart. Happy anniversary, and many, many more.

    admin Reply:

    Thank you so, so much. I really appreciate that. xox

  3. Vani
    Posted September 9, 2015 at 6:07 am | Permalink

    Many congratulations Lyndsey and Matt. Many more to come!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    admin Reply:

    Thank you! xo

  4. Posted September 9, 2015 at 7:27 am | Permalink

    “I hope there’s been more gentling than hardening. Honestly, I think that’s a good a wish for a heading-towards-long marriage as I can think of.” Yes, exactly. Thank you for putting that into words for me. And congratulations! xoxo

    admin Reply:

    Thank you so much. Coffee this fall!? xoxo

  5. Posted September 9, 2015 at 8:17 am | Permalink

    your writing is a joy to read. “tendencies to traits” rings so true: some days it’s the hardest thing in the world for me not to default to the rote response, to actually listen, whether to my husband after 20+ years or my son after nearly 18.

    thanks for the constant reminders to keep doing the work, and to keep being grateful for what “is”.

    admin Reply:

    Thank you so, so much. What a nice thing to say. And yes, the hardest thing in the world. For me, too. xox

  6. Posted September 9, 2015 at 10:49 am | Permalink

    Yes! I, too, was struck by this line: “I hope there’s been more gentling than hardening.” Beautiful. And a great reminder as I’ve been feeling a bit hard lately.

    Happy anniversary to a beautiful couple who have worked to build a beautiful life!

    admin Reply:

    Thank you SO much. xox

  7. Posted September 9, 2015 at 11:46 am | Permalink

    “along the spectrum both meteorological and emotional” — slayed. happy anniversary.

    admin Reply:

    Thank you. xox

  8. Posted September 9, 2015 at 12:07 pm | Permalink

    Happy Anniversary, Lindsey! I love how your writing acknowledges joy and sorrow even when you celebrate milestones in your life. So exquisite and true. Cheers to many more years! xo

    admin Reply:

    Thank you so, so much. I so appreciate these words. xox

  9. Posted September 9, 2015 at 2:36 pm | Permalink

    This is the most beautiful love letter. Congratulations!

    admin Reply:

    Thank you, dear friend xox

  10. Posted September 9, 2015 at 4:05 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations! Many many more!

  11. Posted September 13, 2015 at 2:14 pm | Permalink

    Happy anniversary! I love the line about “more gentling than hardening.” That’s what I want, too.