walking home after an evening baseball game on the last day of school, June 4th
There are certain absolutes that I believe, and that I hope to pass on to Grace and Whit. I know they’ve got some of these already, and others are still works in progress.
These are some things I believe:
That you should write thank you notes. For gifts, for experiences, and within a week (preferably within a day). Always.
That most bad days can be turned around with a bath or a shower and climbing into bed with a book in pajamas. Preferably together.
That you should wave to and acknowledge cars who stop and wait for you while crossing a street.
That everybody cries for no reason sometimes. It’s ok and normal. It might even be good.
That these foods should be made from scratch: applesauce, chicken stock, marinara sauce, chicken noodle soup, chocolate chip cookies. As a bonus, they all make your house smell great.
That you should not talk on your cell phone while checking out at a store. Ever.
That you should answer “how are you” with “well,” not “good.” And that the difference between “can” and “may” is vast. Try to use the right words at the right time.
That you wear a shirt with a collar (Whit) and clothes that are not athletic attire (both kids) when you go to a restaurant.
That there’s great value in saying yes. I try to remember that, though I definitely fail a lot. Try to say yes.
That Dumbledore is the greatest, kindest, wisest, most powerful figure in all of literature.
That you notice when I’m there, even when I’m quietly watching from the sidelines. One of the most important things we can do for people we love is showing up and staying near.
That I haven’t irreparably damaged you by working throughout your childhood (first part-time, now full-time).
That it all begins and ends with sleep. I’m not super fussed about food (the only vegetables Whit has ever eaten are lettuce/kale/spinach) but I take sleep very seriously.
That what matters is trying hard. In school, in sports, in life. I care much more about the effort than I do about the result.
What do you believe?
Get Lindsey's thoughts on mindful living and parenting in your inbox