I love minutiae. I’ve answered the Vanity Fair Proust Questionnaire before, but that was two years ago. I love it and wanted to do it again. Clearly some answers will never change, while others fluctuate with the years of our lives. I would love to hear any and all of your answers!
What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
Where would you like to live?
Right where I am.
What is your idea of earthly happiness?
Kissing my children’s sleeping faces before I go to bed. Being in my bed with a book at 8pm. A cold glass of wine with ice in it on the porch of my parents’ summer home. My annual weekend with my college friends. The feeling when I come home after a long, good run in the rain or snow.
To what faults do you feel most indulgent?
The faults of people who doubt themselves, who stumble as they try to find their truth path, who have lost track of what they really want because the world’s input and affirmation is too loud.
Who are your favorite heroes of fiction?
Dumbledore. He will always be number one. Also, the Velveteen Rabbit, many of Raymond Carver’s stoic, hardworking heroes, Phineas in A Separate Peace, Harry Potter, and the butler in The Remains of the Day.
Who are your favorite characters in history?
Joan of Arc, Georgia O’Keeffe, June Carter Cash.
Who are your favorite heroines in real life?
Ina May Gaskin, Oprah, Anne Lamott.
Who are your favorite heroines of fiction?
Hermione (Harry Potter), Mamah Cheney (Loving Frank), Charity Lang (Crossing to Safety), Lyra (His Dark Materials), Eve (Paradise Lost), Mrs Ramsay (To the Lighthouse), Irina (Three Sisters).
Your favorite painter?
Helen Frankenthaler, Mark Rothko, Georgia O’Keeffe.
Your favorite musician?
The qualities you most admire in a man?
Humor, calm, intelligence, and the difficult-to-define, difficult-to-find ability to make me feel safe.
The qualities you most admire in a woman?
Not taking herself too seriously, but not being flip either. Willingness to say what she believes. Ability to make her life reflect her true values. Resilience.
Your favorite virtue?
Patience. Positivity. Constancy.
Your favorite occupation?
I am pretty sure I’ll never be able to pick just one.
Who would you have liked to be?
Someone more centered, more confident, more clear.
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