Fissures in the dark

Sometimes I stagger under the weight of my own feelings.  This season has turned so swiftly from one of relative calm to one of choppy seas and brand new changes, and I am still struggling to find my balance.  On a daily basis, both my anxiety and my good fortune overwhelm me.  How to take the measure of each?  I can’t.  I can only seesaw back and forth between moments of panic and those of intense awareness of how good my life is.  Maybe it is precisely this gratitude that makes the uncertainty feel so perilous.

There are moments when I am literally brought to my knees by a sharp reminder of something that is lost or by a breathtaking pang of fear about what may come.  But then, often, in the wake of those powerful emotions comes the world, weak but undeniable in its insistence that I open my eyes.

Yesterday, Julie Daley tweeted a beautiful line by Rumi: “I can’t stop pointing to the beauty.”  This is so right, and so true; while I am occasionally swamped by bleakness, almost always there are faint fissures in the dark through which light, and reminders of goodness, can creep.

The suddenness with which this has become an uncertain and unstable time cautions me, again, not to ever grow too attached to the way things are in a specific moment.  It all changes.  I’m thrashing around in these suddenly stormy waters, but trying to keep my eyes on the light, on the cracks, on the sunrises where I can still see the moon (the picture above was taken on the way to Jerusalem, when we landed in Madrid at dawn).  There is so much loss, and so much fear, and it is easy for me to lose sight of the beauty all around.  It doesn’t make up for some of the heartbreak, and certainly doesn’t take away the roiling anxiety, but it can ameliorate it.  Some of it.

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  1. Jen
    Posted January 26, 2012 at 7:18 am | Permalink

    “I can only seesaw back and forth between moments of panic and those of intense awareness of how good my life is.”

    Oh my goodness, yes. I so get it. xo

  2. Posted January 26, 2012 at 7:32 am | Permalink

    Yes. Yes. Yes. Oh my goodness yes.

  3. Posted January 26, 2012 at 7:33 am | Permalink

    Beautiful shot, beautiful words. I’ve landed at that airport at dawn, too (it’s overwhelmingly big, isn’t it?). And, weirdly enough, just yesterday I wrote the words, “Fissures through the dark.”

  4. Posted January 26, 2012 at 7:38 am | Permalink

    i too feel the unsteady rock of the changing, choppy waves. wishing you ease. and sending love.

  5. Posted January 26, 2012 at 9:27 am | Permalink

    All so very true…

  6. Posted January 26, 2012 at 12:15 pm | Permalink

    Beautiful. As always.

  7. Posted January 26, 2012 at 2:14 pm | Permalink

    I haven’t had time to read regularly (Chris is traveling; I’m flying solo with the kids for the week), but I just did a catch-up read and wanted to say, as always, your words speak deeply to me. Discovering your blog is one of the highlights of my 2011. Here’s to a new year.

    Thank you, also, for your devotion to the Oxford comma. (At Harvard we called it the Harvard comma. Funny.) Without it, the last two items in a series seem unfairly linked. I stylistically liberal with all other comma rules and usage (commas are the artsy rebels of my punctuation world), but the Oxford comma is non-negotiable.


  8. Posted January 26, 2012 at 3:19 pm | Permalink

    I’m not surprised this quote spoke to you. We seem to be drawn to similar things. Your words are lovely, as always. I am finding, in more and more ways, that the beauty is also in the fear, the darkness, and all those other places I, at first glance, don’t want to go.

  9. Posted January 26, 2012 at 5:46 pm | Permalink

    I’m thinking of you, through this time of change and worry, and send I’m sending a intention for calmer waters out to you. Be well my friend.