Noticing things and manners. And the potty.

It was just a regular morning.  Clear and cold; it finally felt seasonal after a few oddly, swampily warm days.

The kids were quiet in the backseat, listening to the Boston Pops’ Sleigh Ride on the radio.

Out of nowhere, I asked, “Hey, guys?  I have a question.  If you had to say one thing I have taught you, what would it be?”

Silence filled the car.  I glanced in the rearview mirror.  They were looking out the windows.  Solipsism alert!  Why would I ask that?  I don’t really know.  I guess reflections are on my mind, summings-up, reckonings.

“That’s easy,” pronounced Whit immediately.  I caught his eye in the rearview mirror and he grinned his gap-toothed smile at me.  “Potty training.  You taught me that.”

I laughed.  Yes, yes, I did teach him that.  Grace was chewing her lip.  “Grace?” I prompted.

“Well, it is one of two things,” she said.  “Split between two.  One is noticing things.  And the other is manners.”  She paused, peering out the window.  “I don’t know which is more.”

Potty training, noticing things, and manners.  I guess I could be doing worse.

12 thoughts on “Noticing things and manners. And the potty.”

  1. As someone who is at the initial stages of potty training, who spends HOURS perched over a baby toilet, I can appreciate Whit’s sentiment — and I’m glad he appreciates YOU for it! I do wonder a lot what Abra will remember from my seemingly nonstop efforts to teach her things — tangible, useful, and otherwise.

  2. Yes, I responded privately to Elizabeth but it’s worth sharing – I have only ONE piece of advice, and that is wait. I remember my pediatrician telling me that 95% of kids were potty trained between 24 and 36 months, and it took between 3 days and 6-9 months to do. I thought to myself: who on earth would choose the long version of that? Grace was potty trained at 2 years, 8 months, and Whit right before his 3rd birthday. In both cases it was entirely accomplished within a weekend.

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