Day 5 of Reverb10 – Let Go

#Reverb10, day 5: Let Go. What (or whom) did you let go of this year? Why?

That’s a picture of my neck.  With my Let Go necklace that I bought and wore often in 2010.  This prompt feels awfully close to home; it lands somewhere between my throat and my heart, right where those two discs sit.  I’ve done some letting go in 2010 but I know there is a lot more to do, and this necklace is a daily – hourly – reminder of that goal.

More than specific people, though I do think I have a tendency to cling longer than I should, and to fiercely refuse to give up in some cases where I ought to, the thing I most need to let go of is What Might Have Been.

This letting go is releasing my white knuckle grip on the way I wanted my life to be.

It is EM Forester’s familiar words: “We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

It is also acknowledging that certain things are lost and other things will never be.

It is accepting, with a deep internal settling, the passage of time against which I rail so often and so furiously.

It is the sentence of Jack Kornfield’s, to which I return again and again with an instinct as rhythmic and powerful as the tide, its truth ineffably sad and profoundly uplifting at the same time:

To live is to die to how we wanted it to be.

Let go.


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12 Comments

  1. Posted December 5, 2010 at 12:14 pm | Permalink

    Beautiful, Lindsey, just beautiful.

    XOXO

  2. Posted December 5, 2010 at 12:41 pm | Permalink

    Beautiful. Love EMF’s quote. I need a necklace just like that. xo

  3. Posted December 5, 2010 at 1:09 pm | Permalink

    this post was powerful to me. some lines really struck me hard. I can so relate.

    That last line? WOW!….I needed to read this today.
    Thank you.

  4. Posted December 5, 2010 at 1:30 pm | Permalink

    This is a beautiful post!I love EMF’s quote and your words ……….

  5. Posted December 5, 2010 at 7:02 pm | Permalink

    Thanks for the powerful words! I needed to hear them today!

  6. Leslie
    Posted December 5, 2010 at 7:10 pm | Permalink

    Timely for me as well – thank you for your post. I wonder how it could be that a number of us must be coming to terms with this need to let go – or is this simply a common experience as we all find ourselves further into adulthood? Comforting to know, once more, I am not alone.

  7. Posted December 5, 2010 at 7:39 pm | Permalink

    As always, I’m reminded just how much of a kindred spirit you are and how grateful I am to know there is another out there with a heart so much like my own. xo

  8. Ramona
    Posted December 5, 2010 at 11:46 pm | Permalink

    good thoughts here.
    shared the quotes with my daughter – who is struggling abit these days.

  9. Posted December 5, 2010 at 11:59 pm | Permalink

    Wonderful post, beautifully written.

  10. Posted December 6, 2010 at 11:16 pm | Permalink

    I love Forester’s words. They serve as a very essential and important reminder. I need a necklace just like that. I have trouble letting go and although there are times when I know I should, I don’t. Will have to keep working on it.

  11. Posted June 29, 2011 at 11:07 am | Permalink

    How did I miss this the first time? Love it. And the necklace.

    Thank you!!!

  12. Pattie Eppard
    Posted January 28, 2012 at 4:26 pm | Permalink

    I LOVE that necklace! Where did you get it??!!